英语翻译It often appears that we have more to gain by speaking t

英语翻译
It often appears that we have more to gain by speaking than by listening.One big advantage of speaking is that it gives you chance to control others’ thoughts and actions.Whatever your goal—to have a boss hire you,to persuade others to vote for the person of your choice or to describe the way you want your hair cut ---the key to success seems to be the ability to speak well.
Another obvious advantage of speaking is the chance it provides to gain the admiration,respect,or liking of others,tell jokes,and everyone will think you’re really a wise man.offer advice,and they’ll be impressed by your wisdom.But keep quite… and it seems as if you’ll look like a worthless person.
Finally talking gives you the chance to release(释放) energy in a way that listening can’t.when you’re in trouble ,the chance to talk about your problems can often help you feel better.In the same way,you can often reduce your anger by letting it out orally.It is also helpful to share your excitement with others by talking about it,for keeping it inside often leaves you feeling as if you might burst.
While it is true that talking does have many advantages,it’s important to realize that listening can do good to listeners,too.As you’ll soon read,being a good listener is one good way to help others with their problems; and what better way is there to have others appreciate for you?As for controlling others,it may be true that it’s hard to be persuasive while you’re listening,but your willingness to hear others will often leave them eager to think about your ideas in return.Listening is often reciprocal(互惠的).“You get what you give.”

看来说话要比倾听能让我们得到更多的东西.说话的一个很大的优点在于它会给你控制他人思想和行为的机会.不管你的目标是什么,也许是让老板雇用你、劝别人给你中意的人投票、或者描述你希望怎样剪你的头发.成功的秘诀似乎就是会说好话.
会说话的另一个明显的优点在于它给你增加了别人对你的钦佩、尊敬、喜好以及开玩笑的机会,人们都会认为你是个很好来往的人.当你提供建议时,他们会被你的智慧所惊讶.但保持沉默会让你看样子像是个没用的人.
最后,说话会给你一个释放能量的机会,但倾听却不能.当你陷入麻烦的时候,和别人谈论你的问题可以让你感觉更好.同样地,你可以通过诉说来控制脾气.你也可以通过谈论某件事来和别人分享你的快乐,把它藏在心里会让你有爆炸的感觉.
的确,谈话有很多优点,意识到倾听对倾听者有好处也是很重要的.当你理解别人的时候,做一个好的倾听者对别人和他们的麻烦也是很有帮助的；难道别的更好的办法是让别人感激你?当你在倾听时难以变得有说服力是很困难的,但你希望倾听他人的愿望通常会让他们反过来为你思考.倾听通常是互惠的.“你会得到你所付出的东西.”