Lose-Win is weak.It's easy to get stepped on.It's eas

  Lose-Win is weak.It's easy to get stepped on.It's easy to be the nice guy.It's easy to give in,aii in the name of being a peacemaker.  A girl named Jenny once told me about her wanderings in the world of Lose-Win during her eighth-grade year before she finally broke free.  My problems with my mom all started one day as she said to me sarcastically,"Wow,you are surely lively today."I took it so literally that then and there I decided to close myself off from her and never talk back to her.So every time she would say something even if I disagreed with her,I would just say,"Okay,whatever you want,Mom."But it really got cold quickly.And my anger began to build.One night I talked to my mom about the school homework and she said,"Oh,that's nice"and then went back to mopping the floor.  "Don't you even care?"I thought.But I didn't say anything and stormed off.She had no idea I was even upset.She would have been willing to talk to me had I told her how important it was to me.  At last,I just blew up."Mom,this has got to change.You tell me everything you want me to do and I just do it because it's easier than if fighting.Well,I'm sick of it."This all came as a surprise to her.  Aftei my blow-up,it was really rocky for a while.We felt like we were starting all over in our relationship.But it's getting better all the time.We discuss things now ang I always share my felling with her.  If you adopt Lose-Win as your basic attitude toward life,then people will wipe their dirty feet on you.You'll also be hiding your true feelings deep inside.And that's not healthy.

委曲求全是懦弱的表现,尽管名义上是做和事佬,但容易被人踩低,容易无原则的屈服,成为烂好人.一个叫Jenny的女孩告诉过我她在8年纪时那些委曲求全的经历,在那之后她彻底改变了心态,不再那么懦弱.
我和妈妈的所有矛盾开始于某一天她满是讽刺地对我说：“wow,你今天真是太“活泼”（估计是指太能顶嘴）了!”我太介意了所以从那之后决定对她封闭自己的内心,再也不回嘴.接下来无论她说啥,哪怕是说了我不认同的东西,我也只是说“好吧,只要你喜欢,老妈.”气氛真得会迅速缓和下来,我的愤怒却也慢慢积累.
一天晚上我和妈说起学校作业的事,她说：“哦,挺好的.”然后就继续拖地.我心想：“你一点都不关心吗?!”但我什么也没说愤然离开.她不知道我这是怎么了,（如果）我告诉她这些（应该指沟通）对我多么重要的话,她一定会非常愿意和我谈谈的.后来（某天）我终于爆发了,“妈,事情已经变成这样了!你让我做什么我就做什么就因为这比吵架要好受得多.但是我已经受不了这样下去了!”我妈对这话挺吃惊的,我发火之后的一段时间真得还不错,我们好像重新开始了好关系.但是现在发展得更好了,我们经常讨论问题,我也总是把我的感受和她分享.
如果你接纳“委屈求全”作为你的基本人生态度,那么人们就会站在你的身上擦拭他们的脏脚（等同于说“人们就会把你踩在脚下,不顾你的感受”）.你也只能深深隐藏你的感受在心底,非常得不健康.