大学英语作文.急不要害怕说“不”《就是关于请求帮助,要说 不 》 这样的文章 英语的请 好的话 +分

大学英语作文.急
不要害怕说“不”《就是关于请求帮助,要说 不 》 这样的文章 英语的
请 好的话 +分

生活中的你,是否有过这种体验：对于他人的要求,出于面子,出于怕失礼、怕得罪人,不 好意思拒绝,只好勉强自己,违背自己的意愿,而接受自己不愿意做的事,做了自己不想做的事. 这样的事情,你我都经历过.
当别人向自己提出要求,“不”字的确是很难说出口的,有时话到了嘴边,就是不能脱口, 心里不 免有些矛盾,想拒绝,说不出口,不拒绝,心里还不情愿接受,使人左右为难,不知如何是好
答应他人的要求,做自己不愿意做的事,是很苦恼的,虽然不情愿,但既然已经答应了人家 ,有什么办法呢?只好硬着头皮去做了.事后,往往后悔,“不答应就好了,也不会搞得这么累!还费力不讨好!”“当初实在应该拒绝的,可就是说不出口!”可后悔是于事无补的.
如果不会拒绝,只会一味地接受,给他人留下“好说话”的印象,你就被人生擒活捉了,今天你接受了对方的要求,来日你便拒绝不了了.因为对方在未开口之前已经认定你不会拒绝, 这份认定是不容轻易推翻的.否则,你之前的“善行”便全湮灭了.
如今,我知道,不要难为自己,其实,拒绝并不代表你不友善,也不代表你冷酷无情,没有 人情味.不管对 谁,只要你不想做或者违反原则,就有权利说不.否则,将自己的生活搞得压力重重,会累 坏自己.
要懂得在适当的时候说“不”,拒绝别人不一定是件坏事,如果你没有时间,没有能力帮助 别人,那么拒绝别人的请求是你正确的选择.否则,问题拖下去会越来越难解决.你应该掌 握几种拒绝别人的技巧.比如为他人提些建议,安慰一下他的心情,向他陈述自己的难处, 鼓励他人勇敢地面对等.总之,要让别人感觉你好像还在和他一起解决难题,让他充满理解 和信心地离去.当然,如果你有能力,还是要尽力帮助有救于你的人,这是你良好品格的表现.
我们必须要学会该拒绝时坚决拒绝.拒绝时,要实话实说,不行就不行,不要敷衍,用不着瞎掰一堆连自己都觉得好笑的借口去敷衍. 但拒绝他人时,要让对方心服口服,甘心接受,而不要让对方感觉被轻视或受到伤害.
懂得了拒绝,将会使人受益无穷.适宜的拒绝,不但不会带来负面影响,反而能得到他人的青睐与尊重.
拒绝是生活的艺术,学会它并灵活运用它,会使你生活得从容不迫
In the life of you, whether once had this kind of experience:For the request of others, proceed from a face, proceed from afraid disrespectful, afraid give offense to a person, not not bashful brush-off, have to force oneself, disobey own will, but accept the matter that oneself would not like to be, is oneself don't want to do of matter.Affair like this, you I once experienced.
When other people toward themselves make request, "not" word really is hard to say and export of, sometimes words arrive mouth side, be can not take off, in the mind not don't need some antinomies, think brush-off, say not exit, not brush-off, in the mind still not wish accept, make people dilemma, hard put is O.K.!
Promise the request of others, is the matter that oneself would not like to be, is very distress, although don't wish,since have already promised a somebody else, have what way?Have to crustily skin of head to do.The after the event usually regrets, "do not promise like, can't make so tiredly, either!Is still thankless task!""At the beginning and really should refuse of, be say not to export!"Can regret to isn't help matters.
If can't refuse, will persistently accept and leave to the others the impression of "talk so much", you were captured by the life to capture alive, you accepted the request of the other party today, future you then can not refuse.Because the other party has already affirmed that you can't refuse, this affirms to allow of no to easily overthrow before doing not open mouth.Otherwise, your previous"good conduct" then and all annihilated.
At present, I know, don't be difficult is oneself, in fact, refuse not to represent you not friendly, also not represent you cruelty is heartless, there is no human interest.No matter to who, as long as you don't want to do or breach a principle, have right to say not.Make own life otherwise the pressure is layer after layer, will tired bad oneself.
Want to know at appropriate of time say"not", refuse that the other people aren't necessarily a bad matter, if you have no time, there are no ability help other people, so refuse that the other people's claim is your correct choice.Otherwise, the problem take away a meeting more and more difficult solution.You should the Zhang hold the technique that a few kinds refuse other people.For example lift some suggestions for others, comfort his mood, illustrates his own difficult place to him, encourage that the others bravely faces etc..In fine, let other people to feel that you seem to be still to just solve a hard nut to crack together and let him be full of comprehension and confidence ground to leave with him.Certainly, if you have ability and still need to make an effort to help to have the person to be saved to you, this is your performance of good character.
It was resolute to refuse when we had to learn the brush-off.The truth actually says while refusing, don't go or not, don't elaborate, needless blind bye a heap of even feel oneselfs to funnily lend to elaborate.But brush-off others, let the other party admires sincerely to take orally, pleased accept, but don't let the other party feel be despised or suffer from injury.
Knew brush-off, will make people be subjected to a benefit endless.The feat brush-off not only can't bring negative effect, on the contrary can get the favor and respect of others.
The brush-off is living art, learn it and use flexibly it, willing make you living must take his time