请您来翻译?谢谢Parents often believe that they have a good relation

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Parents often believe that they have a good relationship with their teenagers. But last summer, Joanna and Henry noticed a change in their older son: suddenly he seemed to be talking far more to his friends than to his parents. “The door to his room is always shut,” Joanna noticed.
Tina and Mark noticed similar changes in their 14-old daughter. “ She used to cuddle up（蜷缩着）with me on the sofa and talk,” said Mark. “ Now we joke that she does this only when she wants something. Sometimes she wants to be treated like a little girl and sometimes like a young lady. The problem is figuring out which time is which.”
Before age 11, children like to tell their parents what’s on their minds. “In fact, parents are first on the list,” said Michael Riera, author of Uncommon Sense for Parents with Teenagers. “This completely changes during the years,” Riera explained, “They talk to their friend first, then maybe their teachers, and their parents last.”
Parents who know what’s going on in their teenagers’ lives are in the best position to help them. To break down the wall of silence, parents should create chances to understand what their children want to say, and try to find ways to talk and write to them. And they must give their children a free space, for children also need freedom, though young. Another thing parents should remember is that to be a friend, not a manager, with their children is a better way to know them.

父母经常认为他们自己和孩子的良好关系.但去年夏天,乔安娜和亨利注意到改变他们的大儿子：突然,他似乎谈得多,他的朋友比他父母.“他房间的门总是关着,”乔安娜注意到.
蒂娜和马克在他们14岁的女儿发现了类似的变化.“她曾经依偎（蜷缩着）和我在沙发上说话,”马克说.“现在我们开玩笑说,她这样做只有当她想要的东西.有时她要像对待一个小女孩,有时像一个年轻的女士.问题是找出时间是哪个.”
11岁之前,孩子们喜欢告诉家长他们的想法.“事实上,父母都是首先在名单上,”里埃拉说,迈克尔,父母与青少年的罕见的意识,作者.“这完全改变了多年来的,”里埃拉解释说,“他们和他们的朋友第一,然后也许是他们的老师,和他们的父母过去.”
父母知道他们的青少年的生活将是帮助他们的最佳位置.为了打破沉默之墙,父母应创造机会来了解他们想说什么,并且试图找到说话或写信给他们的方式.他们必须给他们的孩子一个自由的空间,孩子也需要自由,虽然年轻.另一件事,家长应该记住的是,是一个朋友,没有一个经理,他们的孩子是一个很好的途径去了解他们.