关于MAKING FRIENDS 的

关于MAKING FRIENDS 的
Making friends is a skill .Like most skills ,it improves with practice.If you want to meet people and make friends ,you must be willing to take some action .You must first go where there are people .You won’t make friends staying home alone.
Join a club or group .Taking with those who like the same thing as you do is much easier .Or join someone in some activity.
Many people are nervous when talking to new people.After all,meeting strangers means facing the unknown.And it’s human nature to feel a bit uncomfortable about the unknown.
Most of our fears about dealing with new people come from doublts about ourselves.We imagine other people are judging us ---finding us too tall or too short ,too this o r too that.But don’t forget that they must be feeling the same way .Try to accept yourself as you are ,and try to put the other person at ease .You’ll both feel more comfortable .
Try to act self – confident even if you don’t feel that way when you enter a room full of stranges ,such as a new classroom,walk tall and straight,look directly at other people ,and smile.
If you see someone you’d like to speak to,say something .Don’t wait for the other person to start a conversation.
Justing meeting someone new does not mean that you will make friends with that person ---friendship is based on mutual liking and “give and take” .It takes time and effort to develop .And there are things that keep a new friendship from growing.
倒数第二行中为什么要用effect,可不可以用energy

不可以用energy.
effort是努力,是个抽象的词；energy是能量,是个具体的词.你说话做事都要用掉能量,但是不一定很努力……