英语翻译Forgiveness To forgive may be divine,but no one ever sai

英语翻译
Forgiveness
To forgive may be divine,but no one ever said it was easy.When someone hai deeply hurt you,it can be extremely difficult to let go of your grudge.But forgiveness is possible,and it can be surprisingly benefical to your physical and mental health.
"People who forgive show less depression,anger and stress and more hopefulness," says Frederic,Ph.D.,author of Forgive for Good,"Si it can help save on the wear and tear on our organs,reduce the wearing out of the immune system and allow people to feel more vital."
So how dou you start the healing?Try the following steps:
Calm yourself To defuse your anger,try a simple tress-management technique."Take a couple of breaths and think of something that gives you pleasure:a beautiful scene in nature,or someone you love." Frederic says.
Don't wait for an apology"Many times the person who hurt you has no intention of apologizing," Frederic says,"they may have wanted to hurt you or they just don't see things the same way.So if you wait for people to apologize,you could be waiting an awfully long time." Keep in mind that forgiveness does not necessarily mean recinciliation with the person who upset you or condoning of his or her action.
Take the control away from your offender.Mentally replaying your hurt gives power ti the person who caused you pain."Instead of focusing in your wounded feeling,learn to look for the love beauty and kindness around you," Frederic says.
Try to see things from the other person's perspective.IF YOU empathize with that person,you may realize that he or she was acting out of ignorance,fear,even love.To gain perspective,you may want to write a letter to yourself from your offender's point of view.
Recognize the benefits of forgiveness.Research has shown that people who forgive report more energy,better appetite and better sleep patterns.
Don't forget to forgive yourself."For some people,forgiving themselves is the biggest challenge," Frederic says,"but it can rob you of your self-confudence if you don't do it.

去原谅别人是一件十分美好的事,但是却是十分不容易的.如果有人曾经伤你很深,那种怨恨是很难摆脱的.但是,原谅别人是可能的,而且会对你的身心带来意想不到的益处.费德雷克博士— 《为了美好而原谅》的作者,就说,“能够原谅别人的人表现出较少的绝望,生气和紧张的情绪,怀着更多的希望.原谅别人可以帮助我们的身体的器官减少损耗,从而减少对免疫系统的消耗,使得人们感到更加有活力”.
那么,如何开始疗伤的过程呢?试试一下的步骤：
先使自己镇定下来.为了缓解一下气愤的心情,试一试特雷斯管理技巧.“先做几下呼吸,接着想着能让你愉悦的事物：一个漂亮的风景或是你爱的人.”费德雷克说
不要等待伤害你的那个人的道歉,“很多时候那个人是不会有道歉的想法的,费德雷克说,他们就是想要伤害你,或者他们会从另一个角度看待他对你做的事（即不觉得有什么伤害）.所以说,如果你等待着那个人的道歉,你可能需要等待很长很长的一段时间.记住原谅一个人不一定意味着报复那个人或是宽恕他/她的所作所为.
费德雷克继续说,“把注意力从伤害你的人身上移开.心里一直重复回忆着受到的伤害只会加重那个人带给你的伤痛.学着去看身边的那些美好的事物,而不是专注于你的伤痛.
试着从伤害你的那个人的角度去看事物.如果你设身处地地站在那个人的立场上想,你可能会意识到他/她可能是出于无心/疏忽,害怕,甚至可能是出于爱.要想能那样设身处地,你可以从那个人的角度写一封信给你自己.
需要认识到原谅的好处.研究表明原谅别人的那些人又更多的精力,更好的食欲和更好的睡眠.
不要忘了原谅你自己.“对某些人来说,原谅自己是最大的挑战,费德莱克说,但是如果不能原谅自己,你可能会失去自信.”